When Marriage Is Harder Than You Expected
You love each other, but money issues keep getting in the way.
That's where I come in. I'm a Christian Marriage Coach. I help newly married couples stop fighting about finances and start building a marriage you're both excited about.
No pressure. Just an honest conversation about where you are and whether I can help.
You Love Each Other. So Why Is This So Hard?
You didn't walk down the aisle expecting money to become a minefield you have to tiptoe through every day. But somewhere between the honeymoon and now, the arguments started. Hidden debt. Surprise purchases. Disagreements over how much to give, save, and spend. No unified vision of your future together. Decisions that should be simple somehow turn into something way bigger.
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But the arguments are only the surface. Here's what's happening underneath:
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You're afraid to bring up money because you already know how it's going to end. You feel unheard, like your spouse doesn't understand or even care about your concerns. You can't imagine ever getting ahead, and you're not even sure what 'ahead' looks like for the two of you. You lie awake at night wondering if you can afford to have kids, or maybe that you married the wrong person altogether. You wonder if this tension is just how it's going to be. Do you even have the strength to white-knuckle your way through decades of it...if you even decide to stick with it that long?
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Here's what makes this especially painful for Christian couples: your faith calls you to unity and sacrificial love. It calls you to honor God in every area of your life, including your finances. And yet Christian couples divorce at roughly the same rate as everyone else. Not because their faith isn't real, but because nobody ever taught them how to navigate money together. And couples who don't address money conflict early? They hardly ever find things get easier on their own.
That's not a character flaw. It's a gap. And it's exactly the gap God's called me to fill.
Most Couples Only Get Some of the Help
They Actually Need...If They Get Help At All
I know how isolating it can feel when the person you love most becomes the person you argue with most. Maybe you've thought about hiring a marriage counselor or a financial advisor, or just having a really honest conversation with your pastor. The truth is, when money is tearing at your marriage, you're dealing with three things at once: your marriage, your faith, and your finances. And most helpers are only equipped for one of them.
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A counselor or therapist might help you communicate better. A pastor can speak Biblical truth into your marriage. But they aren't likely to sit down with you and examine your money beliefs, work through a joint budget, and develop a unified financial vision rooted in what you actually believe.
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That gap is exactly where I work. As a certified Master Financial Coach and Christian Marriage Coach, I bring the relational insights, biblical wisdom, and financial expertise your marriage needs, so you don't have to choose who to turn to. You can get help with all three at the same time, from a single trusted guide.
Meet Your Coach
If you're struggling in your marriage and money keeps making it worse, I want you to know it doesn't have to stay that way. And you don't have to figure it out alone.
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I'm John Paschall, founder of Purpose & Plenty and a certified Master Financial Coach and Christian Marriage Coach. My background as an Air Force Colonel and corporate executive gave me the discipline, strategic thinking, and calm under pressure that I now bring to every coaching relationship.
But what drives me isn't my resume. God designed marriage to be something the rest of the world looks at and says "I want what they have." Instead, Christians divorce at roughly the same rate as everyone else, and that absolutely breaks my heart.
God deserves better, and He's given Christian couples access to something the world doesn't have: a blueprint for marriage rooted in covenant, sacrifice, and mutual submission to God. Most couples just need someone to help them live it out, especially when money gets in the way.
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I'm not here to lecture you or hand you a generic budget template. I'm here to listen, ask good questions, and walk alongside you until your marriage feels like the partnership God designed it to be.
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Jessica
"When I started working with John, I was in a place of financial stress and emotional burnout. I was juggling responsibilities, carrying pressure quietly, and honestly just trying to survive month to month. I had goals, but no real structure. I wanted stability for my children, but I did not feel confident in how to build it.
Working with John changed that.
He did not just look at numbers. He helped me understand money with clarity and purpose. He taught me how to intentionally save, how to grow what I have instead of constantly feeling behind, and how to manage finances in a way that creates peace instead of pressure.
He also helped me expand that mindset beyond just my personal finances and begin thinking about legacy, stewardship, and how financial wisdom impacts my entire family.
What has meant the most to me is that his guidance has never been transactional. It has felt fatherly, steady, and rooted in Godly wisdom. He gives advice that is both practical and righteous. He challenges me when needed, encourages me when I doubt myself, and always points me back to faith and responsibility at the same time.
He has also supported me in thinking through bigger vision decisions and long-term strategy, not just budgeting. His counsel has helped me grow in confidence, discipline, and clarity.
I truly believe God places certain people in our lives at the right time, and John has been that for me. I am incredibly grateful for his patience, his integrity, and his investment in my growth."
Oscar
"John leads with integrity, wisdom, and genuine care.
We quickly bonded over our shared faith, which built a strong foundation of trust throughout the process.
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What I appreciate most is that his financial guidance never felt one-dimensional — he thoughtfully considered every aspect of my family’s needs and values, and always proposed practical, realistic solutions we could confidently act on. I’m incredibly grateful for his support and would highly recommend him to anyone looking for faith-centered, practical financial coaching."
Here's what clients say about working with me:
How We'll Work Together
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Assess
We start by understanding where you both are: your financial reality, your individual money histories, your conflict patterns, and the dreams you have for your future together. No judgment, just clarity.
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Plan
Together we build a roadmap that addresses the practical: budgets, debt, and major financial decisions. We also tackle relational and faith components: how you make decisions together, how you resolve conflict, and how your finances can reflect what you actually believe as a couple.
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Act
You take action with guidance and accountability. You'll build new habits, have hard conversations with more confidence, and make financial decisions together without the blowups. You'll know what to do next and why it matters.
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Thrive
You're not just surviving your first years of marriage. You're building a financial and relational foundation that honors God, strengthens your partnership, and builds a marriage other couples point to and say "I want what they have."
This Is What's Possible
Couples who do this work tell me the same things. After just a session or two, the money arguments stop. The anxiety lifts. They finally have a future they both believe in, and the confidence that they can actually get there. They stop lying awake at night. They feel heard by their spouse for the first time. They stop dreading money conversations. They feel like they're a real team, working together toward shared goals. And their marriage becomes something they're both genuinely proud of.
Something worth fighting for.